Life can often throw you a curveball, which can lead to feeling overwhelmed. That feeling is normal. Believe me when I tell you that your life can turn on a dime. These things require you to develop coping strategies. This leads me to the concept of the five stages of grief.
If you suffered a traumatic experience, such as developing a horrible illness or chronic (and incurable) condition, chances are you’ll go through these five stages (the five stages of grief according to Elisabeth Kubler-Ross):
Denial can come in many forms, such as ignoring the problem and pretending it will go away, rather than acknowledging it. It’s okay to feel this way. If you’re having a hard time simply acknowledging your loss, it helps to talk about it with someone who’s a good listener. Share your loss with a family member, a good friend, or a therapist.
Try to be patient with yourself. Don’t beat yourself up over the things you might’ve done. Be as kind to yourself as you would to a friend going through the same situation.
I’m here to tell you that this is normal, but it’s not sadness that you can simply snap out of. And you shouldn’t feel ashamed of this. If you didn’t feel like this, that would be abnormal. Grief lets us heal, and (for good or ill) depression is a part of that. Allow yourself to be healed at your own speed. Trying to ignore these feelings will only make them last longer.
Once you’ve acknowledged and gone through the five stages, self-care is essential. Eating the right foods, maintaining some kind of physical exercise, having someone to talk to, and getting enough sleep are all good elements of self-care. Spending time around positive, supportive people who don’t judge you can be beneficial. Don’t take on too many responsibilities, but always be receptive to doing good for others when possible.
This post is a restatement of an article I found in the MSBA Bar Bulletin. You can read the original here.
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